Side Chick

That Other Woman

Happy Wednesday Golden Divas!

D.e.f.i.n.i.t.i.o.n of a Side Chick

A side chick is another way to say, mistress, which is a woman that is engaging in intimate relations with a person who is already in a committed relationship. The name comes from the placement of the chick on the side instead of the “main chick,” which is the wife or girlfriend, kind of like how the burger is the main meal and the fries are on the side.

Side chicks typically know that the other person is in a relationship, but they may think he will leave his main chick or just like spending time with him, so they don’t care if he is a cheater. The side chick is just one of many slang terms for a mistress, with some others being home wreckers, hoes, and THOT.

As you can see, there are ‘NO POSITIVE CONNOTATIONS’ in holding that title of the other woman, mistress, or the chick on the side. The saddest thing about being a side chick is it’s a sign of desperation. You’re willing to settle for not being in the number one position. It doesn’t matter to you that you may be destroying someone’s marriage or someone’s serious relationship with their significant other because all you want is what you want when you want it.

Here’s a ‘CAUTIONARY TRUTH’ for you ladies when ‘switch positions’ from the side chick to the leading woman, your side chick position is vacant and is open for the next woman to step into your previous position. So don’t get all sentimental when it happens!

Golden Divas, in my research I came across a step by step 3 part guide on ‘How to Be a Side Chick in wikiHOW!

Let me share my findings before we proceed with this interview.

If you’re a side chick who wants to keep up a relationship with a person who has a main partner, then it is essential to know what to expect. You can’t expect the relationship to be more than what it is—a way for both of you to have a good time and not worry about where the relationship is going. Becoming a side chick is risky for everyone involved. Take time to consider your emotions and how you would feel about the main partner finding out about you. To be a side chick, you should learn what to expect, what it takes to be a side chick, and reflect on the implications of your actions.

I know right! This is freaking UNBELIEVABLE! A guide that will show you step by step on how to ruin someone’s marriage or relationship.  

All I can say is WOW!!

Okay, ladies let’s break the dynamics down of a side chick there are five types.

1. The ‘I Love your husband ‘side chick: she genuinely loves your husband and is not going to leave him except your husband breaks her heart. She is the most dangerous specimen because everyone wants to be loved, and even though you are the love of your husband’s life, he wants her to be there hanging on to his sleeve. She is good for his ego. The best way to send her packing is to probably to pray to God he does something to break her heart.

2. The ‘He is Mr available side chick’: This side chick hates to be alone, so she’s managing your husband until she finds a single man. She will break up with him on her own.

3. The gold digger side chick: Your husband is an ATM machine, she probably doesn’t like him that much but he pays her school fees and buys her clothes. If you offer to pay her off, she will cash out and look for the next ATM. The question is how much money are you willing to pay to have your husband to yourself?

4. The borrower: This side chick has been through a lot of bad heartbreaks and probably a bad marriage, she needs therapy but she doesn’t know how to ask for help so she’s borrowing husbands. She needs affection and human kindness.

5. The kind-hearted free spirit side chick: sometimes they are off and sometimes they are on. This side chick has a free spirit, and you shouldn’t worry because she will steal your husband’s heart but won’t do anything with it because she doesn’t want to break your marriage. After this side chick, your husband might become faithful for life, but you will always know that he is missing someone. She is the ghost that no one will be able to exorcise.

Again all I can say is ‘WOW’ and I didn’t know there were 5 different types of side chicks out there!!

Okay, now that we have gotten the definition, the step by step guide and the different types of side chicks out of the way, and you have a razor-sharp picture of what a side chick looks like, and capable of doing I would like to introduce you to my friend Naomi Washington-Yates. She is a spiritual woman who has written her first novel in a ‘Biblical Concept‘ by using scriptures to encourage women to think better of themselves. Her ‘sizzling must-read’ book ‘SIDE CHICK’ is buzzing all around Chicagoland; because Naomi hits you with a lot of truths as she takes you on a journey of a young lady who is fighting with her flesh to do the right thing.

I met this beauty years ago and we worship together at New Faith Baptist Church International where next level living is not only our church motto for the year of 2019 but it’s our way to live our best life by doing better and helping others to succeed in life!

Apparently, our motto is working for this Golden Diva, she is thriving and is continuously being blessed by God in her endeavors. She is embracing next level living by empowering women never to settle and take the second position to be with a man but to understand the place where God will have them to be in the first position of a man’s heart!

Here is a snippet from her book Side Chick:

Diva, we will call her is known around Chi-Town as the baddest chick. She has a banging body, a witty personality, and a knack for making men fall in love with her. She is telling her story from a first person’s point of view. She’s a very spiritual person that was raised in the church. Diva and her friend love to go out on the town, have fun while hunting for prominent men. With her charming ways, Diva meets a guy who she falls in love with, only to find out later he’s married with a child. She finds herself on the wrong side of the tracks earning her a title as, “Side Chick.” Will this Diva remember what she was taught in church or will she destroy another women’s union?

MEET NAOMI WASHINGTON-YATES

Naomi was born to Lewis (deceased) & Ora aka ‘My MaDear Washington’ on October 31st. She is a god-fearing woman, a happy wife, a mother of two, a grannie to three, a daughter, sister, aunt & friend to all. Naomi enjoys traveling, reading, and is always up for a good time.

She believes in leading by example, so she returned to college at a later time in life to try to influence her son to get his college degree. He didn’t follow her lead but, she continued and received her degree in communication; however, her daughter did listen, and she holds a double doctorate degree. Naomi King is her husband Donald who is the love of her life; he stands with her in “WHATEVER” she chooses to do. This is why she loves him so!!

Hey Divas, before you read Naomi’s interview listen to the testimony by Changing Faces: That Other Women. 

IN CONVERSATION WITH NAOMI WASHINGTON-YATES

C50: What inspired you to pen a book called Side Chick.

NWY: To empower women through spiritual principles to highlight the importance of marriage and to give a warning to the Side Chick that there are consequences of being a partaker in committing adultery and fornication.

C50: Although the name of the book is obvious, tell us what’s all of the buzz about when it comes down to being a ‘Side Chick?’

NWY: ‘Side chick’ is letting women who have low self-esteem, women who are fighting with their flesh, and women who have settled for a position of being second know that better is around the corner. The side chick also needs to know that when the spirit and the flesh are fighting each other if she feeds the spirit the flesh will die then God will place her in a leading ladies position.

C50: Ok Naomi, what was your writing Kryptonite when you created the character Diva?

NWY: When the character Diva was created it was to uplift women because Diva is a person that exudes great style, confidence, & personality.

C50: What was the most challenging part of your artistic process developing your characters?

NWY: I can honestly say that I had no difficulties developing characters.

C50: Did you ever consider writing under a pseudonym?

NWY: No! I never consider writing using a fictitious name.

C50: Does your family support your career as a writer?

NWY: Yes, I’m very fortunate to have a supportive team. Especially, my King, I highlight him because he sees everything the highs & lows.

C50: What does literary success look like to you?

NWY: I’m in awe when it comes to the success of this book thus far. Being a headline, making the front page in Chicago Tribune was major to me I was absolutely honored. I was in a book fair in Indiana and the reporter asked me about my book and asked if she could take a picture of me and my book.

To tell you the truth, I had been so busy I forgot all about it. I woke up at 4 am to pray with my online prayer partners, and something told me to Google my book, and when I saw the article with my picture, I said wait what’s going on? Then I read the article and screamed, waking up my hubby and screamed again.

“Bae look ‘Side Chick’ made the front page news!”

We are still very excited about that.

C50: What is the best way to market your book?

NWY: Social media, book fairs, word of mouth, during interviews such as this one.

C50: What kind of research did you do, and how long did you spend researching before beginning your book?

NWY: I wrote this book with spiritual tones, so the Bible was definitely my go-to book. As far as researching, I just kept reading until I got a clear understanding or I would call one of my prayer partners, and we would discuss it until I was satisfied with our findings. I’ve been writing for years I have two other articles published one in the school newspaper, and one in the Chicago Sun-Time media newspaper.

C50: Naomi is there any hidden secrets in your books that only a few people will find?

NWY: No, I don’t think so, because I was very transparent in writing this book.

Bonus Question

C50: What advice would you give to a new author who is writing their first book?

NWY: My advice to a new author is to write your story don’t get discouraged, “BELIEVE” in yourself, and your story. “BLOCK THE NAYSAYERS”!!

Never minimize what you may think is a slow start because God will do things for you SUDDENLY!!

C50: There you have it ladies the author of ‘SIDE CHICK‘ Naomi Washington Yates encouraging women to fight the flesh and to fight for something better in a relationship than settling for the second position.

HAPPY 4TH OF JULY!!!

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